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  1. Victoria • Restoring our Victorian
    Victoria • Restoring our Victorian at · Reply

    A- I LOVE THIS POST. YOU ARE AWESOME.

    B- I blog for world domination… let’s evaluate how that’s going: endless time, energy, CARING, hoping, worrying, writing, being frustrated… VS: No sponsors. No money. No throne of internet-domination.

    Now I’m off to join hands, sing a song, make a drink, and eat some bonbons.

    Oh, and share this with every blogger I know.

  2. April
    April at · Reply

    I love this post – you are frickin’ awesome!!! very inspiring!

  3. Ashley
    Ashley at · Reply

    I’m going to be honest with myself and say that I blog because I have some stupid insecure desire to have people like me and to reaffirm the decisions I make in life…even in regards to something as superficial as my home.

    I also blog because I like to talk about what I’m interested in, and not everyone in my “real” life cares to listen. By me throwing it out there on the internet, only those who are interested have to read. If they don’t give a rat’s ass? Clickity clickity on the little red x.

    So basically….narcissism. I blog because I’m a narcissist.

  4. Danica
    Danica at · Reply

    First things first…just going to out on a limb here and assume it’s totally fine that I swear in this response right! Oh how I wait for these kind of posts!

    Second……I just recently came across Victoria’s blog…holy fucking hilarious! I love all types of blogs but I especially love the more animated ones where you can totally tell what kind of person you are following along with on there journey.

    Third…my blog and its spelling mistakes, bad pictures, and sometimes probably not making sense wording started off as something that I wanted to do for ME because I knew the next 1.5 years was going to be nutzo. Like that kind of nuts where I wouldn’t remember shit I did on what day so I needed to write about it. Then I started finding other fun blogs and thought this is fantastic I love reading about other people! Then I thought wait maybe I could make this a little more public because there might be people out there that would want to read about how crazy we were….who knows I cold be completely wrong and people might not believe anything we do but at the end of day at least I could make some new friends out of it!

    Fourth – friends part – not that I have a shortage of friends but I don’t think many of them could relate to the path we have chosen…so the online friends become real friends who encourage you and support you along the way. Remind you that you can do whatever you strive for…Lynne, Casey, Alex, Janet…you….and the rest of you ladies thanks!

    Thanks for this post – I enjoyed it very much and my fucking “u” on my computer is going on the fritze which is making this comment writing very difficult.

  5. debirussell
    debirussell at · Reply

    I blog because I want to get all the words out of my head. I want to see if I can actually be a writer, which may or may not be in God’s plan. I do wonder often if it’s a waste of time and energy, but sometimes I write something I feel really passionate about or proud of and I get a few hundred reads from others who thought it was worth their time and that is exhilarating. So that’s why I keep going.

  6. Time With Thea
    Time With Thea at · Reply

    Thank you for sharing your ‘why’ behind the blog. I think I have been following you since the beginning and it has been great to see it grow and evolve. Another blogger wisely told me the LSD approach works and I also have heard that you have to have the authentic passion first and the rest will come. Not only do I hope but I am quite sure it will work for you! ~Thea

  7. Debbie
    Debbie at · Reply

    Alex, you couldn’t have said it any better. I decided to stay at home with my little ones so I could develop a closer relationship with my daughters, working in Toronto I felt I wasn’t getting enough time to spend with them. This is the first time I read your blog and I will continue to do so! April told me you wrote but I haven’t come across the blog yet, I will look out for it and see you around ‘town!’

  8. Sarah
    Sarah at · Reply

    What a fantastic story – I love the reason why you blog. I’ve lost my blog voice and am working to find it again. Look forward to reading more!

  9. Stacey
    Stacey at · Reply

    This was so fucking awesome! Sorry, but I cuss like a sailor too and we know that about each other but we’re always so damn polite. HA! I’m happy you sat down to write this, Alex. I would hate to think that you EVER got down on yourself for being at home with your kids. ( I know you actually don’t but people are STUPID! )
    Stay at home moms are AMAZING people in my book. I taught pre-kindgarden for almost ten years… with 14 three and four year olds in my care for hours as I came up with ideas and activities centered around learning EVERY SINGLE FUCKING DAY! YOU are worth more money than anyone could ever pay. What you’re doing with those little lives is the most important job anyone can have.
    I don’t say that because I have a vagina, girl-power and all that. Hell, I don’t even have kids of my own but I’m smart enough to know just what it takes day to day.
    Any potential employer should sit across from you and see someone that can think quick, multi-task, problem solve, work well with others, create, follow through, improvise, manipulate, motivate, and the list goes on… because that’s what moms like you do every single day! (okay, okay, I’m getting a little too worked up, here!)

    It sounds like what may have seemed negative turned into something positive for you because the next time you’re faced with an opportunity you will know exactly what to say and how to handle it. The crazy thing is that we sometimes have to put pen to paper or fingers to keyboard to think it through and realize how awesome we really are. That “HEY, I’m working my ass off here, damnit”! I’m glad you had your moment to realize it.

    As for blogging. You know how I feel about that. World dominance, fame, money, acceptance and validation are not me in general …. so they most definitely do not come into play when I blog. It has and continues to be a way of record keeping for me. I cannot deny that it’s fun when people visit or comment or I get some sort of write up about our efforts. It’s fucking amazing. No lie. But if it all ended tomorrow I would still blog. I would still feel the same about it. Whether it’s 20,000 followers or just my mom checking us out. Blogging has helped ME get through what has been the most difficult thing I’ve ever done.

    I hope it continues to be fun and positive for you, Alex. I also know you’re good at it so it should definitely be something you add to your resume and talk about with great pride when sitting across from a potential employer. You rock!
    (sorry for writing a book here. You moved me.)

  10. EricS
    EricS at · Reply

    Awesome!

  11. Danielle
    Danielle at · Reply

    Thank you for writing this and bearing your soul.

    One of the deep seeded reasons I write is because I wanted something for myself. Purely and selfishly… something that I could share on my own. As a wife and mom, it’s so easy to get wrapped up in supporting and encouraging everyone else. That’s awesome, but you wake up one day and wonder what happened to the things you had hoped and dreamed of. The irony of blogging is that sometimes you can get distracted by fitting in and doing what you think others expect of you. It can become something that is not your own if you let it.

    My sweet friend, thank you for reminding me why I blog. I adore you!

  12. ScrapAndSalvage
    ScrapAndSalvage at · Reply

    i’m glad you were able to process this and turn a deflating situation into, well, THIS! i love your blog, your creativity and your sense of humor. i, for one, am not very crafty, i also swear like a sailer (with no intention of curbing that) and completely enjoy seeing the craftiness you come up with. keep it up and own it, lady! you have a great calling card.

    i blog to keep track of jordan’s fun finds and fixes. he spends so much time doing it, it seemed like the perfect way to get involved so we could spend more time together. plus it’s fun to look back and “remember when…”. i totally enjoy it when perfect strangers become virtual friends, some even “real” friends. and comments and “likes” are always fun, but even better is hanging out with jordan. so i think i’d keep blogging even if likes and comments were disabled (not that this is the only way we hang out, ha). 😀

    and i always enjoy seeing what new way you end up using more of that rainbow ribbon. HA.

  13. Roar Sweetly
    Roar Sweetly at · Reply

    What a refreshingly honest post. I love this about your blog. I am quite computer illiterate and first discovered a ‘blog’ in late 2009 when I was on maternity leave with my first child. I was blown away by it and started to discover other blogs. I would leave comments in my name but always wanted to have my own little calling-card. When I was on maternity leave with my second child I finally had the motivation to start my own blog. I work part-time and I often ask myself why I continue to blog. I think it’s a way to connect with other like-minded people. My ‘real-life’ family and friends are not quite as interested in craft and cooking and design. I also think it’s a pretty cool legacy for my kids and I hope they appreciate looking through all the content when they’re older. I blog quite sporadically and try not to think of having an obligation to an audience…as this does my head in.

  14. Jennifer @ Brave New Home
    Jennifer @ Brave New Home at · Reply

    Great post! I think the-thing-you’ll-say-if-you-ever-get-asked-again response should be included somewhere permanently in your blog : ]

    Haha, I always feel like a hack saying “easy peasy” in my blog—it’s not something I’d ever say in real life but I feel like it’s DIY blogger vocab 😛 I wonder if we might collectively start a new genre of DIY bloggers who like to hold a hammer in one hand and a glass of adult beverage in the other 😛

    I blog for a bunch of reasons—all real reasons that sustain my blogging—but at the core I’m kinda competitive so when I initially read other people’s blogs I thought, Hey, I can do that, too!

    Thanks for recommending Victoria’s blog—she’s a hoot!

  15. Neaten Your Nest
    Neaten Your Nest at · Reply

    Thank you, thank you for sharing your story. And I read the whole thing! Maybe it’s because you warned me it would be long, I hunkered down and felt that reading it would be important. And it was! I blog for a lot of reasons….I wanted something that was mine. I’m a work from home mom and everything is about to do lists and ‘so and so’ needs a snack or the dog needs to go out or a bill needs to be paid. Blah, blah, blah. I wanted to find my soul a little bit, what drives me as an individual. I also want to be good, I mean REALLY good at something. I want to look back and say ‘look what I did, that’s awesome.’ And I kinda still want HGTV to contact me to be on a show. Ha! 🙂 Thank you again.
    ~Erin

  16. Tara @ Suburble
    Tara @ Suburble at · Reply

    Well said, lady. This whole post is just fantastic.

    I, too, have reigned in a lot of my “personality” when it comes to blogging. My first post had a smattering of swear words and a lot harsher tongue in it. My mother called me and said, “It’s classless… why are you writing that?”

    And so I edited it. And I’ve edited myself a lot while blogging.

    I don’t have quite the resume that you do, but prior to becoming a SAHM, I was a high school teacher. I started teaching when I was 22 and I will say it: I got a lot of respect from people for teaching teenagers when I was barely out of my teenage years.

    Now? I get comments like, “You’re not working? You’re kidding, right?” or “You let your contract expire? Do you know how tough the job market is?”

    Trouble is: I want to be at home. I want to be the primary influence in my kids’ lives right now. And daycare costs a frigging arm-and-a-half.

    I blog because I need a place to put my thoughts. I need to flex my writing muscle. I need to jot down stories that happen. I need to carve out a little space that’s mine.

    And having read your post, I think that I need to slip a bit more “me” into my posts. Maybe be less worried about the opinions of others and be more concerned with what I think – what I’d REALLY say.

    It ain’t going to be “easy-peasy”. I’ll tell you that.

  17. Tash @ The Dreamhouse Project
    Tash @ The Dreamhouse Project at · Reply

    I love, Love, LOVE this post. Thank you. On sooo many levels thank you for writing this!

  18. fynesdesigns
    fynesdesigns at · Reply

    Whew! Great post, you must be glad to get that out!! Great thoughts, I’m glad you’re in this for you. I think we all need to take a step back and ask ourselves this very question.

  19. Kara
    Kara at · Reply

    This post is awesome! You definitely nailed one of the top reasons I blog. Thanks for the great post 🙂

  20. now at home mom
    now at home mom at · Reply

    Alex, I know, I’ve told you this before but I will tell you again; you are amazing! and thank you so much for writing this, for reminding me why I blog and also as a stay-at-home mom for exactly a year this month, I appreciate you writing what that ‘man’ said, when I read this it made me mad and then sad, then I read the entire post 3 times (not kidding) I read it as soon as you post it but was not able to leave you a comment
    anyhow, I started writing my blog because I thought I could show my DIY’s too, like other bloggers do, then realized how difficult it could be having a blog with a little one! 🙂 again Alex, thank you for this post and for opening up to us like this! 🙂 so honest and sincere as always! 🙂
    & oh! I forgot, I started my blog so I could have been be contacted by the W Network or something but I guess it won’t be happening anytime soon ha!ha! now I write my blog for different reasons 😉

  21. Wendy & Alex (@OldTownHome)
    Wendy & Alex (@OldTownHome) at · Reply

    Enjoyed reading your post and wanted to chime in with a “why we blog.”

    I’m going to go out on a limb and say that any blogger that’s been doing it for more than a year and isn’t “doing it full time” will actually have various reasons why they keep blogging, and at any given time one reason may be more important than another.

    For us, we started blogging because we felt like we’re “different” and hope to find other “different” people that we can interact with and hopefully help with our experiences.

    How are we “different?” We’re a couple in our 30s that started dating in high school and married when we were in our early 20s, yet we have no children, we moved well away from the safety of our family, and we chose a setting (urban DC metro area) that is foreign to many (including us when we moved here in 2000). To top it off, we bought a very old house in an historic district and decided, with very little prior experience, we were going to renovate the entire thing nearly completely on our own, all while both working full time and very demanding jobs. Oh, and we love going on vacations, having amazing experiences, drinking a lot of wine, and being honest that being married while renovating a house isn’t a glamorous undertaking and causes a whole hell of a lot of fights and hope all of our experiences, again, can help other people along the way.

    Now, we continue to blog because of the friends we’ve made along the way, experiences we’ve had, the hope that we are helping people figure out things we’ve already tackled, the thought we might somehow convert or inspire someone to try a major or minor project on their own, and the amazing feeling we get when someone compliments us and something we’ve done.

    We have no delusions of grander, and we know that our niche appeal most likely means we’ll never be one of those “big time” bloggers, and that’s okay with us.

  22. Kate
    Kate at · Reply

    Alex, I echo everyone’s comments on what an awesome post this was (I’ve been on holiday and wanted to wait until I could comment ‘properly’ when back… Thanks for going out on a limb and such a thoughtful & personal insight. I only discovered you a year ago so missed your early ventures – I’m in that phase now where I’m concluding that I need to shift to self-hosted (oh god) to get more control and a more functional site, so it’s good to know you made the transition and survived… I’ve heard lots of horror stories so any tips welcome..!
    Oh, and I love it that you swear like a trooper – another way in which we are kindred souls 😉 I think people find it all the more shocking when there are no other obvious giveaways (full body tattoos, multiple piercings, threatening behaviour), and such verbal atrocities come from smiling, mom-like mouths – but what the hell…. x

  23. saigewisdom
    saigewisdom at · Reply

    I’m so glad I stumbled across this post – as a first time reader it was a fabulously long introduction to your blog, your story, your style, your voice. I’m pretty confident the universe didn’t lead me here by accident. I think I blog for my ego, benefit from the connection to likeminded ladies and hope to make money at it someday even $15 would be nice. I’ve been treating it as a hobby, but as I contemplate taking an ‘exit stage right’ from social work (my path/career for the past 11 years) I think I need to follow your lead and treat it like a business. I too swear like a trucker and say “I was a sailer in my past life” but more because I’m infatuated with horizontal striped shirts.
    I’m hoping to get myself to BlogPodium this year (come on AYA Kitchens pull through for me) and if I do, I’m looking you up. xo

  24. Laura at Mommy Miracles
    Laura at Mommy Miracles at · Reply

    Darn! A whole long comment just got lost! I’ll rewrite the general gist:

    I love that your blog has turned into a demo reel. I have begun to realize the exact same thing over the last year. I am not particularly passionate about my day job, but my blog is the culmination of my passions. I have turned it into my (mostly unpaid) job because this is the job I want. And I am often shocked that I am spending my life writing – a dream that I thought would always go unfulfilled.

  25. Rebecca
    Rebecca at · Reply

    Yes, yes, yes. I would encourage any stay-at-home mom who plans on re-entering the workforce at any point and in any capacity to have some sort of side project she can use to develop, maintain and showcase her skills.

    My blog is probably never going to be a full-time income but it has been instrumental in landing me other paid work and keeping me in the loop.

    Also, in an internet drowning in crafting blogs, I do think it’s the writing and the voice that sets the best apart from the rest. So go for it.

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